A Play About You

This weekend I had the pleasure to be in the audience for the first ever Suburban Showcase. It was grand, altogether grand. One artist that performed there was a financial planner and poet, Lynn Torre. She presented several poems throughout the evening. Her last poem was "A Play About You" which presented the idea that we are the Writer, Director, Producer and star of our very own play. Our life!

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Lynn's book of poetry Dance of the Leaf: Poetic reflections on life, love & soul will be out later this fall.

Our lives are a play of our making. We can take the opportunity to make changes in our lives as a director would a scene in a play. This could be called re-inventing yourself, taking a new direction in life or simply changing careers.

If you're in job transition you are at a point to evaluate your career and find that this is an opportunity to change careers. So you're the author of your life and career. You might not be in transition but at a decision point in your life, again you might want to challenge yourself as a director might push an actor to do better in your role.

Some people need to hire a director for their play. They hire a consultant, a career coach to offer direction in their professional life. They remain the Producer of their play and have hired a pro to help their actor create the best possible performance of their life. Hiring a coach/director can really make a difference in the play you're producing and starring in.

Realize that regardless of the economy and what's going on in the government, you have some say in how your life is to turn out. You are the Play-write, the Producer, the Director, and most of all the lead actor in your play.

A Coach or a Therapist

Some people are afraid of going to a career consultant sometimes called a coach. I had a client once ask me what is the difference between a “transition coach” and a psychologist or therapist. I believe this is why some folks are afraid of using anyone in a counseling role, they are afraid to deal with past issues.

Here’s the biggest difference I know of between a career coach and a psychological therapist: the career consultant is focused on your behaviors and not your motivations. I was reminded of this recently when I was facilitating a transition support group. We were discussing the importance of networking and asking for help and advice in the job search. One of the group members said that they couldn’t ask a stranger for help or advice. Another group member asked why this was a difficulty. As the first member began to respond, I interrupted the conversation. I pointed out that in this venue “the why” was not the right question; that is, “why” is the realm of the psychotherapist. The right question is, what will it take for you to make the change in your behavior and ask for help and advice in your job search.

Now, I understand that many people have issues and traumas in their past and others were conditioned by the events of their life into who they are today. As a career consultant, I am focused on my clients current behavior and changes that will be more productive in their career growth. The past may influence the present--as Freud said, “The child is the father of the man”-- but people can change their behavior without in-depth psychoanalysis.

I see people every day that have big issues and problems and their career crisis or job loss has brought those issues to the foreground. In some of these cases, the folks I am talking to are suffering from depression, either acute or chronic and really need professional psychological help and I refer them to a therapist or psychologist or psychiatrist for immediate help. The person in crisis needs to deal with the emotional problem first before continuing their job search.

Yet, many others have “issues” that don’t require medical or psychological attention. They need to adopt some new behaviors, change some bad habits and move on. That is were the coach is best suited to point out and direct the needed change. I point out things my client doesn’t see, help my client develop more skills and cheer on my client to overcome an obstacle and succeed. 

If you are struggling with your job search and it’s going on longer than you believe it should, call a career consultant, contact me. I’d be happy to work with you and aid you on your way to gainful employment.